Can We Truly Forgive and Forget?


Reflection of the Day:

I often have discussions about the difference between “forgiving” and “forgetting.” I am pretty strong in my perspective on this. I am never going to forget what Dick Fisher did to me in 6th grade. He pushed me over in the playground and then got a group of his friends to threaten to beat me up. Fortunately, it did not amount to much. But I won’t forget it. However, within a month I forgave him. I could give scores of examples, some much more significant than that , but I just want to make my point. We can forgive without forgetting. Let me go a little further with a concept that is murkier – letting go. Sometimes we can spiritually or intellectually forgive, without emotionally letting go. I do believe that spiritual forgiveness can sometimes be an important step toward letting go emotionally. It’s not the whole journey but sometimes a liberating first step. While I am not a counselor or therapist, I professionally interact with enough people to know how valuable they are in helping people to let go. Sometimes we can only let go with the help of another. Sometimes that is a friend or family member but other times it is a professional counselor. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or give the help when you notice someone needs it. Maybe Lent can be a time to take that step if needed. I will probably come back to more on this later in Lent.



Tell someone who has hurt you that you forgive them and are no longer angry.


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Matthew 5:43-45

Jesus said to his disciples:
“You have heard that it was said,
You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.
But I say to you, love your enemies,
and pray for those who persecute you,
that you may be children of your heavenly Father,
for he makes his sun rise on the bad and the good,
and causes rain to fall on the just and the unjust.

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